Am i mean or is it him?

Ok It sounds like you need to get away from this guy. My best advise would be to not date him. There are plenty of fish in the water and you have the rest of your life to find a nice man to mary. If he is telling you to shut up now then think how your dating life will be with him. Guys like this can be abusive to women when they get older. I suggest you have nothing to do with him.